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How is this so much more annoying to you than two people who know each other sitting next to you and talking or possibly as weird as this is gonna sound like ma

by soheil 4y ago

How is this so much more annoying to you than two people who know each other sitting next to you and talking or possibly as weird as this is gonna sound like maybe they were not completely anti-social people and just met and started talking?

noduerme 4y ago
Because when strangers start chatting next to you, you can join the conversation and at least aren't relegated to listening to one side of it. Talking to new people in public is social. Talking on the phone in public is antisocial.
- soheil 4y ago
  So if airlines enforced callers to put their device on speaker that'd resolve the issue?
  - noduerme 4y ago
    Not really, since casually joining someone else's speaker call is almost as rude as taking one in the first place. The objective when designing any environment where people are forced together is to limit interpersonal friction and, where possible, encourage civility and cooperation. From that perspective, all verbalizations to or from people not interacting with the environment are detrimental.
    - soheil 4y ago
      > all verbalizations to or from people not interacting with the environment are detrimental huh? connecting with someone you love over a video call is detrimental to the environment you're in?
threeseed 4y ago
At least for me, my brain distinguishes between the two situations. If two people are sitting next to each talking I have the ability to easily tune them out. If one person is talking to a phone I can't. There's a study about it here: https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0058579 https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal... "one-sided conversations still impacted participants’ self-reported distractibility and memory, thus showing people are more attentive to cell phone conversations than two-sided conversations"

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How is this so much more annoying to you than two people who know each other sitting next to you and talking or possibly as weird as this is gonna sound like ma

by soheil 4y ago

noduerme 4y ago
Because when strangers start chatting next to you, you can join the conversation and at least aren't relegated to listening to one side of it. Talking to new people in public is social. Talking on the phone in public is antisocial.
- soheil 4y ago
  So if airlines enforced callers to put their device on speaker that'd resolve the issue?
  - noduerme 4y ago
    Not really, since casually joining someone else's speaker call is almost as rude as taking one in the first place. The objective when designing any environment where people are forced together is to limit interpersonal friction and, where possible, encourage civility and cooperation. From that perspective, all verbalizations to or from people not interacting with the environment are detrimental.
    - soheil 4y ago
      > all verbalizations to or from people not interacting with the environment are detrimental huh? connecting with someone you love over a video call is detrimental to the environment you're in?
threeseed 4y ago
At least for me, my brain distinguishes between the two situations. If two people are sitting next to each talking I have the ability to easily tune them out. If one person is talking to a phone I can't. There's a study about it here: https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0058579 https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal... "one-sided conversations still impacted participants’ self-reported distractibility and memory, thus showing people are more attentive to cell phone conversations than two-sided conversations"