I feel it. Whether the statistics are true or not, the idea of being 75% done with the time by 12 sounds extremely liberating. I put in the time and effort fo

I feel it. Whether the statistics are true or not, the idea of being 75% done with the time by 12 sounds extremely liberating. I put in the time and effort for the sake of the children, but the truth is I want them independent as soon as possible. The older they get and the less they need (and the less time I have to spend with them), the more joy I get out of life. The first year was a black hole of lots of work which obviously the child has no capacity to really express gratefulness for (not that it is owed). There's nothing that can really prepare you to know what parenthood will be like with you're particular children, and by the time you know what it's like to regret it it's too late -- at the very least you're in it for child support. I recommend anyone who enjoys their life as it as and don't see it as a "must have" to fulfill their sense of purpose to strongly STRONGLY consider before they have kids.