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While it may be a true statistic, it seems to dramatically miss the boat. Time spent with a newborn, with an infant, with a four year old, with a ten year old,
by wang_li 4y ago
While it may be a true statistic, it seems to dramatically miss the boat. Time spent with a newborn, with an infant, with a four year old, with a ten year old, with a sixteen year old, with a twenty year old are not the same. You can have more interaction, more contentment, more sense of continuity, and more sense of family, in a Thanksgiving weekend spent with your adult child and their family than the entirety of your kid's first year.
- barbariangrunge 4y agoWhat percent of statistics are made up again? 75% maybe?
- luxuryballs 4y ago75% are made up, 62% are made up on the spot.
- nearbuy 4y agoAs far as I can tell, this is an unsourced statistic, and something that wouldn't be that easy to measure or even define. What counts as time spent together?
- solumunus 4y agoIronically, an entirely made up statistic.
- ROTMetro 4y agoMy son had a springsuit at 1. We would just sit in the sand at Manresa. It was some of the most peaceful, most content, most important time in my life. I don't really remember any discussions from a holiday dinner. But I remember sitting on that beach, and the very important rocks that we examined so seriously. The texture of them. The smell of the salt air. Exploring the bucket with sandcrabs I had gathered. Maybe you are referring to something specific about you as a person and what you value and not a general rule.
- markus_zhang 4y agoMan this reminds me of American Beauty. Good memories.
- kotlin2 4y agoDefinitely not a rule. Im pretty sure my mom doesn’t even like who I’ve become as an adult and she definitely loved me a lot as a kid. Now that I have a kid of my own, and I understand the all encompassing love you feel for a child, I find how my mom feels quite sad
- TedDoesntTalk 4y agoWhat is a spring suit?
- spockz 4y agoI think it is a lighter form of wetsuit intended for spring when the weather is getting warmer.
- crftr 4y agoA spring suit is a wetsuit that's normally worn in cool water--e.g. in the spring or fall. Spring suits normally have short arms and short legs.
- Handytinge 4y agoI envisioned a lycra bodysuit with springs taped all over it, so the kid would bounce up in the event of falling over.
- nagonago 4y agoI agree, quality is more important than quantity. There's a common sentiment on social media that you must cherish every single moment possible with your child or you'll regret it later. While well-meaning, this can lead to parents being guilted into having no boundaries. Setting aside time for yourself is just as important. It makes you less stressed, helps kids develop independence, and models healthy boundary-setting. For example, spending 5-10 minutes fully engaged playing with your child is much more valuable than spending an hour halfheartedly playing with them while your mind is wandering elsewhere. Don't let numbers like "only 12 summers" create a ticking doom clock over your head, or constantly second-guess yourself, "did I spend enough time with my kids today?" Parents have enough stress as it is. I'm not saying you should ignore your kids on the weekdays and only spend time with them on the weekends, just that you should not feel guilty about setting boundaries and taking time for yourself sometimes. (Also: I do agree that spending time outdoors is very healthy and important, but I consider that to be a separate issue.)