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I was in a similar situation: I was almost 26, in law school. wasn't sure what I wanted to do, but I knew being a lawyer wasn't it, I went to law school out
by olegious 15y ago
I was in a similar situation:
I was almost 26, in law school. wasn't sure what I wanted to do, but I knew being a lawyer wasn't it, I went to law school out of panic and pressure. I panicked when I realized I didn't want to work in finance after undergrad and felt pressure to please my family. I was envious of my friends that seemed to have it all figured out, depressed and piling up student debt. I thought there was no way out. Then I had an epiphany- what's the point of being pressured to do something that you don't want to do? Why chase potential status or money when this is a sure-fire way of waking up at 35 and being miserable with what you do? Most of us are smart enough to be able to succeed as long as what we're doing makes us happy. I decided to figure out what makes me happy- what do I enjoy doing in my spare time, what interests me? For me, it was a mix of business and technology. I found a conversion tech degree program, dropped out of law school (finally manned up and confronted my parents that I was responsible for my life), completed a MS program in about than 1.5 years (I did it in the UK) and never looked back. Flash forward 3 years from my dark days in law school- I'm in a rewarding job that I love, I'm happily married (I met my wife through a friend that I met in the MS program) and loving life.
Takeaways for you:
1. if you're not happy with what you're doing, stop, I know it is scary, but believe me, the rewards are worth it. You don't have to completely drop out of your program, you can take a year off (most schools offer that option) and spend that year figuring out what makes you happy and pursuing that goal!
2. don't be pressured into unhappiness- if it is your parents, confront them. Yes, it is difficult, the convo I had with my parents was one of the most difficult things I have ever done up to that point- but you have to live for yourself, not for anyone else. Confront the pressure.
3. My education (mis)adventures left me with about $100-105K of student debt. That is a scary number, but is manageable. Make sure your debt has a fixed interest rate, you can apply for income based repayment plan which will give you plenty of breathing room.