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The finality with which you describe your experience leaves little room for understanding a wider range of perspectives, doesn’t consider room for misunderstand
by testbjjl 4y ago
The finality with which you describe your experience leaves little room for understanding a wider range of perspectives, doesn’t consider room for misunderstanding or the chance that you’re simply wrong in your view of underlying events. For me, that’s the growth that’s missing from this anecdote. It seems unlikely you will be happy in your next role given this perspective.
- throwarayes 4y agoWell I didn’t spell out the full drama but: 1. It’s been more than a year and I’ve beat myself up, had coaching, and assumed I was the problem 2. This boss / situation is the outlier from almost every other role and I’ve decided to stop beating myself up about it (for context I’m mid career, worked at half a dozen places) 3. I have complete empathy for the boss. This situation is just different from past roles. They just need someone else in the role. I admit, perhaps I failed, but life is short and I can keep beating my head against a wall trying to “grow” or move on.
- hedora 4y agoI doubt it was your fault. I’ve seen this story over and over again (including with world class / top-knotch engineers). The root cause was poor management in every single case I’ve personally witnessed.