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>So what can a malignant narcissist to do if they aren't truly a victim, that will confer on them the most prized status, that of victim? The answer is simple:
by bnralt 4y ago
>So what can a malignant narcissist to do if they aren't truly a victim, that will confer on them the most prized status, that of victim? The answer is simple: Join a traditionally oppressed community by lying about your experience, exploiting the inclusive nature of the community so you can claim the moral high ground as a victim, usurp the organization for your own ends and continue to keep marginalized people oppressed.
Or they could simply be members of the marginalized group. People in such groups are still human beings, and a certain percentage of all humans are "malignant narcissists." It's simply part of the human experience. You don't need to go to the lengths of looking for people lying about identification to find them.
- AndrewKemendo 4y agoYes, however the core of the thesis I am making is this: Affinity groups for marginalized populations attract malignant narcissists at a higher rate than other organizations So you should always be alert for them, but even more alert if you are part of a marginalized group, as you're at higher risk of exploitation
- zozbot234 4y agoMarginalized populations have low social capital (that's what it means to be marginalized), so they will always be more vulnerable to the tyranny of structurelessness, and its attraction for dark-triad personalities. But I think you may be right that the way most so-called "safe spaces" are managed actively exacerbates this issue.
- AndrewKemendo 4y agoExactly...and perhaps using the term "safe space" was too loaded in this case. I simply mean any curated community with high openness, high conscientiousness and low judgment centered around supporting people.
- P5fRxh5kUvp2th 4y agoDoes that mean these groups are no longer marginalized and should be ignored, because it seems like you can get a lot done by accusing someone of rape or racism.
- P5fRxh5kUvp2th 4y agoThe issue is they take over and then they hurt the very people trying to be helped. When I was young, hearing that someone was raped immediately brought to mind an understanding of the heinousness of the crime. Today I assume it's not true and start asking questions. Do I like having that mindset? No, I obviously don't want anyone to be raped, men and women included. But at some point I have to protect _MYSELF_ from manipulation, and these people manipulate entirely too often. And the people who are truly hurt by this are the ones who truly need help. I mean hell, when I see a statistic about rape my first question is to see the questions asked in the poll. Because it turns out, many of the respondents THEMSELVES wouldn't consider their response to imply rape, but it gets labelled as such for the statistics.