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I feel there's a big difference between people who say something like, "here's why I think I'm a victim of [x]" and "I'm a victim, so I deserve [y]". I know wh
by kypro 4y ago
I feel there's a big difference between people who say something like, "here's why I think I'm a victim of [x]" and "I'm a victim, so I deserve [y]".
I know when kids say they "deserve" anything I try to shut it down because while it may be true in some cases I think to embrace that kind of perspective can be damaging. In my opinion you shouldn't expect anything from the world, you should simply seek to be understood. If people understand your struggles then they most of the time they'll treat you well instinctively. Simply demanding that your understood and that you should be given what you deserve isn't a good way to approach things.
That said, I'll be honest and admit that I 100% weaponise victimhood if I feel I'm being attacked unfairly. When people start accusing me of being x, y or z, then I'll happily twist that back around on them by playing my own victim cards.
- rayiner 4y ago> In my opinion you shouldn't expect anything from the world, you should simply seek to be understood. That’s expecting something, isn’t it? I much prefer the convention in Asia: don’t make yourself a burden; seek to make things easier for the people around you.
- musicale 4y ago> don’t make yourself a burden; seek to make things easier for the people around you It helps to stay young, rich, beautiful, healthy and free of any disability.
- 9wzYQbTYsAIc 4y ago> If people understand your struggles then they most of the time they'll treat you well instinctively That’s the crux of all social issues, isn’t it? Understanding the other means allowing yourself to be stood over and to stand under the other. Of course, it is quite difficult to determine and come to a consensus on the limits of understanding. Godwin’s Law, etc.
- xtiansimon 4y ago“Understanding the other means allowing yourself to be stood over and to stand under the other.” What does that mean? Is this some kind of post-modern critique of meaning?