The data model fits better. The data is relational and fits neatly into a simple relational table of user_id, skill_id. I think perhaps you just don't perhaps l

The data model fits better. The data is relational and fits neatly into a simple relational table of user_id, skill_id. I think perhaps you just don't perhaps like SQL syntax which is why a join feels weird to you, but what you've described is a 4 or 5 line sql query which anyone can understand. Additionally, you can now easily answer questions like. "How many skills does the average user have?" "Who has the most skills?" "What are the most popular skills?" etc, all likewise in trivially simple sql expressions.