I've found that being more like a therapist and discussing not what it is they think but trying to get to the bottom of why it is they feel as such a really goo

I've found that being more like a therapist and discussing not what it is they think but trying to get to the bottom of why it is they feel as such a really good approach. Even ignoring the issue and trying to ask them more about their values. And then going deeper and figuring out why they value those things. And sharing the same about you to them. A lot of disagreement I find surprisingly come from similar values but just different weights applied to how events impact those values. Or sometimes it's just different value sets, and then you have to discuss why it is we value different things. Even if you walk away still in disagreement, because you might still just end up where you have differing values, or where you've got different weights to those values, at least you'll have an understanding of each other and why it is you don't agree on those things. The problem is online discussions are just not conductive to this at all. You can't engage someone and really work through this process of shared understanding. Relationships online are too superficial and short lived.