I don't see this dynamic where I am in my station in life at the age of 45. To be forthright my station is just a part time employee at a cool grocery store but

I don't see this dynamic where I am in my station in life at the age of 45. To be forthright my station is just a part time employee at a cool grocery store but besides one other coworker everyone is younger than myself. I'm actually very impressed with some of the so called minors that work with me. They seem fairly well grown up in respect to my own maturity at least in what limited interaction I can have with them at work. There is no pettiness, everyone is very kind and helpful to each other and the customers. Perhaps that was a meaningless paragraph in comparison to the environments found at universities of prestige. I've never studied at one and I can't say how they have evolved. Basically though if a kid is raised by two parents of the following attributes: full commitment to the partnership, not letting work interfere too often with child development, and a father who takes honor seriously; there should not be any problem with feeling comfortable in further stages of life for either parents or children. The woman is usually the spiritual leader of the family and becoming grandma is a sacred thing that grownups wish to become. Not having grandpa means not having so many years of experience and mistakes not to know about. I never met my granddad and all I have of him are some photos. But I have audio interviews my dad made that I cherish for knowing the kinds of problems he had. My parents passed away years ago and they raised me starting at a later than average age. Because my parents could not repair their relationship they got divorced and although dad always stressed I could call him anytime, I rarely did because I feared him. Not because he was abusive or mean, but i didn't always take his wisdom well unless I was with him in person. I saw him on weekends. After I returned to my home town I was with him as often as I could until he passed of a difficult cancer, cancer of the pancreas. I feel that I may have matured much faster if I followed dad's advice more often, but I feel like it would have been hammered on me daily, if he were around with mom every day till they passed. At 45, I feel about as mature as the so called minors I work with. In most cultures, by the age of 16 or less, you are pretty much an adult and have all the capacity to be one in society. The more time you spend with your kids, the more respect they will have for you, and also if you treat everyone with respect, your kids will emulate you for it.