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When we wake up every morning, this is a wide range of options available to us, and we only see a tiny sliver of them. When we do the same thing we did yesterd
by furyofantares 4y ago
When we wake up every morning, this is a wide range of options available to us, and we only see a tiny sliver of them.
When we do the same thing we did yesterday, we will see that option more clearly tomorrow, and other options less clearly. Our agency narrows.
When our options have narrowed too much, it can be hard to get unstuck. Hard to get out of the rut. Wake up, go to work, consume content, go to bed. Every day. Sometimes we might dream of other options, but they don't seem attainable, they're just too distant.
I think the only way to expand your options is to actually do new things. The new thing becomes more salient, and the next day you might see more than one option. Build up more ways to be.
Some activities are worse than others about further narrowing your options, and some can help expand your options beyond just becoming more salient themselves.
Scrolling endless content never lets me get bored, never lets me think of something else to do, and doing something else is always a bit harder than continuing to scroll. There's a clear similarity to drug addiction, where options narrow until to just doing that drug all the time, and being wasted on the drug doesn't do anything to expand your options.
Going for a run expands my options. I get a bit bored on the run, and my mind can wander. I can reflect, and may choose to do something new tomorrow. Journaling expands my options. Practicing gratitude can expand my options. Meditating can expand my options. Talking to a therapist can expand my options. All that mental health stuff shares something in common here, it lets me break the cycle of narrowing options and narrowing agency, and instead widen my options a little.
- virtual_void 4y agoI really enjoyed reading your thoughts on this. Running especially is useful for me too in this respect and I feel like you’re right about the root of the problems being how easy it is to avoid being bored. I also wonder if deep thinking encourages us to live too much of a worry-driven internal life, and we avoid boredom for fear of overthinking. Perhaps I should go for a run.
- r00fus 4y agoThis is so well written. I like lightcone analogy (even though you didn't mention it).
- rramadass 4y agoGood insight! Your ideas? Or inspired from somewhere/somebody which you can share?
- furyofantares 4y agoJohn Vervaeke! He's a cognitive scientist with a uh, 50-part lecture series "Awakening from the Meaning Crisis" on youtube, some of this was covered in episode 13 "Buddhism and Parasitic Processing" (specifically the parasitic processing part)
- anoojb 4y agoThank you for sharing — are there specific episodes that I might prioritize in relation to this "languishing" topic or would you recommend the series in order?
- furyofantares 4y agoHmmm, I guess I have to recommend the whole thing in order? I don't have the sense that episodes are very self-contained, they build on each other. It's kind of daunting to recommend a 50 part lecture series, so maybe just try the first episode and see if it grabs you. Or if you do wanna try out of order, I'm thinking episode 13 is probably what you're looking for.
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