I believe your husband is lucky and it's certainly a good approach that you're using, but for many/most men, that's not the experience they are having, whether

I believe your husband is lucky and it's certainly a good approach that you're using, but for many/most men, that's not the experience they are having, whether they're married or not. They'll hunger for attention and won't find it, they'll need help but will not get any. What else could you say to them but some version of "winter is coming, be prepared"? The best you can do for the vast majority is handing out winter coats and hope they'll find ways to deal with what life offers them besides drugs and suicide. It is what it is, their suffering usually is damaging only to themselves and thus society at large has no interest in changing it.