Perhaps the problem is with your questions? I didn't realize this is a problem I had, until my kids started emulating it. daughter: 'Dad what are we having

Perhaps the problem is with your questions? I didn't realize this is a problem I had, until my kids started emulating it. daughter: 'Dad what are we having for dinner?' dad: 'um, not sure' daughter: 'is it something baked?' dad: 'uh maybe, don't know, why' daughter: 'will you use the oven?' dad: 'ok, whats this about?' daughter: 'can I bake some cookies, and ask my friends to come for a baking sleepover?' dad: ffs So, if you want people to help, tell them what your problem is, and the context, not just ask for the specific things you think will solve your problem. Of course you can guide them to that by telling them what your idea of a solution is, and why.