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The problem with dating sites is that they will always favor the people that don’t “need” them. Say you build a dating site with the goal of helping guys that

The problem with dating sites is that they will always favor the people that don’t “need” them. Say you build a dating site with the goal of helping guys that have had bad luck on other sites meet girls. One of two things will happen: 1) there will be essentially no women on the site 2) the success stories will bring all of the successful guys from the plethora of other sites, diluting the whole process and ruining the novel concept Hinge is currently the closest to a holistic dating site, where you can essentially like someone “for” something and they can see what you liked and how you messaged them all for free. It’s actually so much better than tinder that I’m not sure both why tinder still exists as well as how the make money when all of the usual “tinder premium” features are already included for free. The secret to succeeding at dating apps is to just stop using them. The connections, by and large, are superficial at best and usually lead nowhere. Meanwhile, finding a girl by doing an activity and striking conversation is so much more successful and holistic.

thesaintlives 4y ago
If you are good at finding a partner for whatever activity you need to meet in real life (romantic or physical) you will probably do ok on a dating site for a number of reasons. There are lots and lots of women on dating sites looking for romantic connections and just purely sexual satisfaction. I have had lots of experience in this area. I slept with easily over 250 women in one year. I lost count. Dating is a numbers game. You have to be in it to win it. A rejection is not a rejection. You simply move on and keep looking. Finding a girl by doing an activity or simply striking a conversation requires confidence, personality and being genuine in my opinion (there are other methods). That is indeed the key. If you can do that in the street to any girl you find attractive you can do the same online...
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- decafninja 4y ago
  I've seen male friends who are great with women and getting dates offline - also having great success on online dating sites. Likewise I've seen male friends who have difficulty getting dates offline have similarly terrible results with online dating.
  - thesaintlives 4y ago
    Exactly. The medium is not the problem. That is not to say some mediums don't suit some messages better, they do. Dating women has got to be the easiest and hardest thing in the world. It needs to be approached the correct way for you. If you are happy in yourself, confident, genuine and non threatening you simply have to ask the girl if she would like to spend some time with you doing whatever. It is that easy or hard...

thesaintlives 4y ago

If you are good at finding a partner for whatever activity you need to meet in real life (romantic or physical) you will probably do ok on a dating site for a number of reasons. There are lots and lots of women on dating sites looking for romantic connections and just purely sexual satisfaction. I have had lots of experience in this area. I slept with easily over 250 women in one year. I lost count. Dating is a numbers game. You have to be in it to win it. A rejection is not a rejection. You simply move on and keep looking. Finding a girl by doing an activity or simply striking a conversation requires confidence, personality and being genuine in my opinion (there are other methods). That is indeed the key. If you can do that in the street to any girl you find attractive you can do the same online...

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decafninja 4y ago
I've seen male friends who are great with women and getting dates offline - also having great success on online dating sites. Likewise I've seen male friends who have difficulty getting dates offline have similarly terrible results with online dating.
- thesaintlives 4y ago
  Exactly. The medium is not the problem. That is not to say some mediums don't suit some messages better, they do. Dating women has got to be the easiest and hardest thing in the world. It needs to be approached the correct way for you. If you are happy in yourself, confident, genuine and non threatening you simply have to ask the girl if she would like to spend some time with you doing whatever. It is that easy or hard...