There is no loss of masculinity in allowing women to pay for their own drinks, or even for them to pay for yours. My girlfriend (now wife) had great difficulty

There is no loss of masculinity in allowing women to pay for their own drinks, or even for them to pay for yours. My girlfriend (now wife) had great difficulty in letting me pay for her drinks and meals. She insisted on either paying for her own or even paying for mine too or maybe paying for the whole meal in return the next time we went out. When it came to buying an engagement ring about 4-5 years later, she insisted on paying half, instead of me paying for all of it. What that meant, in practice, was that she ended up with an engagement ring that was twice as expensive as the one that I could have afforded to pay for alone. ("Win - Win") There are 'givers' in this world, and there are 'takers'. If you are a 'giver' and you don't manage to find another 'giver', you will have an unhappy union. Because eventually the 'giver' gets 'gived out' when the 'taker' has taken everything away. (It gets a bit hilarious when you have two 'givers' in the relationship, because there is nobody to 'take'. Eventually the two 'givers' learn to both 'give' and 'take'. And everybody is happy. We've now been together for 34 years. My first marriage only lasted 16. She was a 'taker'. We went broke.) Back to your problem: I suspect women on Tinder are mainly 'takers'. Discard all the 'takers' you find. Look out for the rare 'givers'. Spend your time and money on those ones. You don't have to spend big. A coffee or a drink along with a chat will give you enough evidence.