> Most of the people are just looking for sex or something less serious... Not in my limited experience browsing the 30-40 range in my area. There are a handfu

> Most of the people are just looking for sex or something less serious... Not in my limited experience browsing the 30-40 range in my area. There are a handful of profiles where it's clearly an ENM couple looking for playmates, but almost all the rest have the exhausted-sounding language of "serious only please", "no hookups/nsa", "please don't be a weirdo/cheater", "please have your shit together", etc. > ... and the apps heavily paywall males. They are cancer. Yes, absolutely. The current state of affairs sucks for everyone. But I'm not sure if meeting people at a bar is necessarily any guarantee of finding someone who isn't "completely nuts".