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>But a bi dude, in 2010 (and still today) you simply wouldn't get match with women if you write bi This is simply not true. Maybe I'm just hot enough to overc

>But a bi dude, in 2010 (and still today) you simply wouldn't get match with women if you write bi This is simply not true. Maybe I'm just hot enough to overcome the queer disgust? I don't feel like I'm that hot.

yamazakiwi 4y ago
Depends on where you live and what age your dating pool is.
auveair 4y ago
> This is simply not true. I removed the point about today since I haven't been dating in a few years, but I stand by the 2010 comment, you could find a few female stars being openly bisexual for example but it was incredibly rare for male stars, which is indicative of how hot it was perceived at the time.
- skyyler 4y ago
  My lived experience just completely disagrees with what you are saying. Perhaps it's an age difference thing. The gay men have had more of a problem with me than the straight ladies. I gravitate towards bi/pan people anyways due to my androgynous features.
  - auveair 4y ago
    I don't know how old you are, but anyway it seems you are starting with a pretty good crowd, if you're not ugly, androgynous (sought after) and dating in an understanding pool, which is your own orientation. I see where you are coming from but it doesn't seem like it warranted the blanket dismissal you started with. For what it's worth I found a blog post referring to that phenomenon from a few years ago which talks about a poll conducted in Glamour Magazine: https://web.archive.org/web/20160320094402/https://www.pride.com/bisexual/2016/3/17/no-mens-land-when-women-wont-date-bisexual-guys https://web.archive.org/web/20160320094402/https://www.pride...
    - skyyler 4y ago
      I guess I didn't realize how good I have it. Discussions about dating sites have always been confusing to me. It's simple, you make a profile, talk to people, people talk to you... Why is that so hard?
      - sneak 4y ago
        Most (75%+) men on most dating sites only complete the first two items on your “simple” list.
        novok 4y ago
        Lol that is brutal.
  - vintermann 4y ago
    No personal experiences here, but I observe that k-pop stars are more popular than ever and that yaoi is a thing. I believe you.
rngname22 4y ago
"Results indicated that heterosexual women rated bisexual men as less sexually and romantically attractive, less desirable to date and have sex with, and less masculine compared to straight men. No such differences were found for heterosexual and gay men’s ratings of female and male profiles, respectively. These results support previous research findings that indicate more negative attitudes toward dating bisexual men than bisexual women." https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/15299716.2018.1563935?journalCode=wjbi20 https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/15299716.2018.15... "63% of women, however, say they wouldn't date a man who has had sex with another man" https://www.glamour.com/story/glamour-sexuality-survey https://www.glamour.com/story/glamour-sexuality-survey If you do some casual searches you can find qualitative and quantitative data supporting the idea that unfortunately for bisexual men, male-attracted women are not into them and you're incentivized to hide or downplay it if you want to appeal to the broadest group (though I'd argue you may as well focus on those that can accept male bisexuality if you're successful enough at dating).

yamazakiwi 4y ago

Depends on where you live and what age your dating pool is.

auveair 4y ago

> This is simply not true. I removed the point about today since I haven't been dating in a few years, but I stand by the 2010 comment, you could find a few female stars being openly bisexual for example but it was incredibly rare for male stars, which is indicative of how hot it was perceived at the time.

skyyler 4y ago
My lived experience just completely disagrees with what you are saying. Perhaps it's an age difference thing. The gay men have had more of a problem with me than the straight ladies. I gravitate towards bi/pan people anyways due to my androgynous features.
- auveair 4y ago
  I don't know how old you are, but anyway it seems you are starting with a pretty good crowd, if you're not ugly, androgynous (sought after) and dating in an understanding pool, which is your own orientation. I see where you are coming from but it doesn't seem like it warranted the blanket dismissal you started with. For what it's worth I found a blog post referring to that phenomenon from a few years ago which talks about a poll conducted in Glamour Magazine: https://web.archive.org/web/20160320094402/https://www.pride.com/bisexual/2016/3/17/no-mens-land-when-women-wont-date-bisexual-guys https://web.archive.org/web/20160320094402/https://www.pride...
  - skyyler 4y ago
    I guess I didn't realize how good I have it. Discussions about dating sites have always been confusing to me. It's simple, you make a profile, talk to people, people talk to you... Why is that so hard?
    - sneak 4y ago
      Most (75%+) men on most dating sites only complete the first two items on your “simple” list.
      - novok 4y ago
        Lol that is brutal.
- vintermann 4y ago
  No personal experiences here, but I observe that k-pop stars are more popular than ever and that yaoi is a thing. I believe you.

rngname22 4y ago

"Results indicated that heterosexual women rated bisexual men as less sexually and romantically attractive, less desirable to date and have sex with, and less masculine compared to straight men. No such differences were found for heterosexual and gay men’s ratings of female and male profiles, respectively. These results support previous research findings that indicate more negative attitudes toward dating bisexual men than bisexual women." https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/15299716.2018.1563935?journalCode=wjbi20 https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/15299716.2018.15... "63% of women, however, say they wouldn't date a man who has had sex with another man" https://www.glamour.com/story/glamour-sexuality-survey https://www.glamour.com/story/glamour-sexuality-survey If you do some casual searches you can find qualitative and quantitative data supporting the idea that unfortunately for bisexual men, male-attracted women are not into them and you're incentivized to hide or downplay it if you want to appeal to the broadest group (though I'd argue you may as well focus on those that can accept male bisexuality if you're successful enough at dating).