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The bisexual thing was pretty stupid and pretty revealing how much this blog post was bullshit, there was a bunch of reason why you would pick one gender as a b

The bisexual thing was pretty stupid and pretty revealing how much this blog post was bullshit, there was a bunch of reason why you would pick one gender as a bisexual, especially if online dating was just to meet more of the gender you wanted. But a bi dude, in 2010 you simply wouldn't get match with women if you write bi and plenty of gay dude would turn you down as well, so you just wouldn't bother and write gay or straight eventually. Edit: removed today

skyyler 4y ago
>But a bi dude, in 2010 (and still today) you simply wouldn't get match with women if you write bi This is simply not true. Maybe I'm just hot enough to overcome the queer disgust? I don't feel like I'm that hot.
- yamazakiwi 4y ago
  Depends on where you live and what age your dating pool is.
- auveair 4y ago
  > This is simply not true. I removed the point about today since I haven't been dating in a few years, but I stand by the 2010 comment, you could find a few female stars being openly bisexual for example but it was incredibly rare for male stars, which is indicative of how hot it was perceived at the time.
  - skyyler 4y ago
    My lived experience just completely disagrees with what you are saying. Perhaps it's an age difference thing. The gay men have had more of a problem with me than the straight ladies. I gravitate towards bi/pan people anyways due to my androgynous features.
    - auveair 4y ago
      I don't know how old you are, but anyway it seems you are starting with a pretty good crowd, if you're not ugly, androgynous (sought after) and dating in an understanding pool, which is your own orientation. I see where you are coming from but it doesn't seem like it warranted the blanket dismissal you started with. For what it's worth I found a blog post referring to that phenomenon from a few years ago which talks about a poll conducted in Glamour Magazine: https://web.archive.org/web/20160320094402/https://www.pride.com/bisexual/2016/3/17/no-mens-land-when-women-wont-date-bisexual-guys https://web.archive.org/web/20160320094402/https://www.pride...
      - skyyler 4y ago
        I guess I didn't realize how good I have it. Discussions about dating sites have always been confusing to me. It's simple, you make a profile, talk to people, people talk to you... Why is that so hard?
        sneak 4y ago
        Most (75%+) men on most dating sites only complete the first two items on your “simple” list.
        novok 4y ago
        Lol that is brutal.
    - vintermann 4y ago
      No personal experiences here, but I observe that k-pop stars are more popular than ever and that yaoi is a thing. I believe you.
- rngname22 4y ago
  "Results indicated that heterosexual women rated bisexual men as less sexually and romantically attractive, less desirable to date and have sex with, and less masculine compared to straight men. No such differences were found for heterosexual and gay men’s ratings of female and male profiles, respectively. These results support previous research findings that indicate more negative attitudes toward dating bisexual men than bisexual women." https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/15299716.2018.1563935?journalCode=wjbi20 https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/15299716.2018.15... "63% of women, however, say they wouldn't date a man who has had sex with another man" https://www.glamour.com/story/glamour-sexuality-survey https://www.glamour.com/story/glamour-sexuality-survey If you do some casual searches you can find qualitative and quantitative data supporting the idea that unfortunately for bisexual men, male-attracted women are not into them and you're incentivized to hide or downplay it if you want to appeal to the broadest group (though I'd argue you may as well focus on those that can accept male bisexuality if you're successful enough at dating).
ChickeNES 4y ago
I clearly remember seeing women's profiles on both okc and Tinder that outright stated that they were not interested in bi men, but it's become rarer and rarer as time passes
- jrnichols 4y ago
  Depends on where you are. I'm still finding a lot of blatant hatred and bigotry from women against bisexual guys. the gay guys have been fine. but over the years, the most hateful, vile comments have come from women. I dont't think that it's becoming more rare, but the hateful ones are quieter about it. as son as you bring it up in a private conversation, they unleash on you and block you.

skyyler 4y ago

>But a bi dude, in 2010 (and still today) you simply wouldn't get match with women if you write bi This is simply not true. Maybe I'm just hot enough to overcome the queer disgust? I don't feel like I'm that hot.

yamazakiwi 4y ago
Depends on where you live and what age your dating pool is.
auveair 4y ago
> This is simply not true. I removed the point about today since I haven't been dating in a few years, but I stand by the 2010 comment, you could find a few female stars being openly bisexual for example but it was incredibly rare for male stars, which is indicative of how hot it was perceived at the time.
- skyyler 4y ago
  My lived experience just completely disagrees with what you are saying. Perhaps it's an age difference thing. The gay men have had more of a problem with me than the straight ladies. I gravitate towards bi/pan people anyways due to my androgynous features.
  - auveair 4y ago
    I don't know how old you are, but anyway it seems you are starting with a pretty good crowd, if you're not ugly, androgynous (sought after) and dating in an understanding pool, which is your own orientation. I see where you are coming from but it doesn't seem like it warranted the blanket dismissal you started with. For what it's worth I found a blog post referring to that phenomenon from a few years ago which talks about a poll conducted in Glamour Magazine: https://web.archive.org/web/20160320094402/https://www.pride.com/bisexual/2016/3/17/no-mens-land-when-women-wont-date-bisexual-guys https://web.archive.org/web/20160320094402/https://www.pride...
    - skyyler 4y ago
      I guess I didn't realize how good I have it. Discussions about dating sites have always been confusing to me. It's simple, you make a profile, talk to people, people talk to you... Why is that so hard?
      - sneak 4y ago
        Most (75%+) men on most dating sites only complete the first two items on your “simple” list.
        novok 4y ago
        Lol that is brutal.
  - vintermann 4y ago
    No personal experiences here, but I observe that k-pop stars are more popular than ever and that yaoi is a thing. I believe you.
rngname22 4y ago
"Results indicated that heterosexual women rated bisexual men as less sexually and romantically attractive, less desirable to date and have sex with, and less masculine compared to straight men. No such differences were found for heterosexual and gay men’s ratings of female and male profiles, respectively. These results support previous research findings that indicate more negative attitudes toward dating bisexual men than bisexual women." https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/15299716.2018.1563935?journalCode=wjbi20 https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/15299716.2018.15... "63% of women, however, say they wouldn't date a man who has had sex with another man" https://www.glamour.com/story/glamour-sexuality-survey https://www.glamour.com/story/glamour-sexuality-survey If you do some casual searches you can find qualitative and quantitative data supporting the idea that unfortunately for bisexual men, male-attracted women are not into them and you're incentivized to hide or downplay it if you want to appeal to the broadest group (though I'd argue you may as well focus on those that can accept male bisexuality if you're successful enough at dating).

ChickeNES 4y ago

I clearly remember seeing women's profiles on both okc and Tinder that outright stated that they were not interested in bi men, but it's become rarer and rarer as time passes

jrnichols 4y ago
Depends on where you are. I'm still finding a lot of blatant hatred and bigotry from women against bisexual guys. the gay guys have been fine. but over the years, the most hateful, vile comments have come from women. I dont't think that it's becoming more rare, but the hateful ones are quieter about it. as son as you bring it up in a private conversation, they unleash on you and block you.