>> This part is a choice. Choose to stop beating yourself up over it. When I look at my own faults or flaws, I don't think "that is who I am" but instead "this

>> This part is a choice. Choose to stop beating yourself up over it. When I look at my own faults or flaws, I don't think "that is who I am" but instead "this is where I am today and I can make changes to that". It may take time, and I will fail sometimes, but that's expected and part of being human. OP would benefit from changes in their self-talk like this. It really does influence how we feel about things over time.