I think you don't realize that when something is all you've ever known, you don't realize it's wrong. I know a lot of those immigrants who went abroad to study,

I think you don't realize that when something is all you've ever known, you don't realize it's wrong. I know a lot of those immigrants who went abroad to study, swearing they'd come home to improve things, but once they were abroad they realized how much better life is with the freedoms in the UK or US. And once they realized that, they wanted to raise their families in that environment. Would you grudge them that?