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I did a lot of personal development and spiritual work that taught me very practical tools for 'being with' the uncomfortable sensations that arise around choos

by tern 4y ago

I did a lot of personal development and spiritual work that taught me very practical tools for 'being with' the uncomfortable sensations that arise around choosing not to drink. Armed with the confidence that brought me, I simply lost interest. Surrounding myself with other people doing the same thing also helps a lot I'm sure. I didn't keep alcohol in the house until someone was moving and gifted me some. Occasionally I'll have a drink, but I have higher sensory clarity now from meditating and I typically find it neutral to unpleasant, unless it's just the right situation. What also helps is taking other lightweight mind altering substances for evenings when I want to have social fun. I recommend going down the research chemical rabbit hole and looking at the dissociatives especially. At the end of the day though, it took a lot of time and drastic lifestyle shifts over years. For what it's worth, I don't think self discipline is the right approach, for the same reason it's not an effective way to treat any other addiction.

bgoated01 4y ago
Do you have any good resources for learning these practical tools you mention?
- tern 4y ago
  The simplest recommendation I can make is to find EmRes training https://www.emotionalhealthinstitute.org/ https://www.emotionalhealthinstitute.org/ This woman offers a very affordable and simple training https://www.eventbrite.com/e/introduction-to-emotional-resolution-tickets-237943283767 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/introduction-to-emotional-resol... Organic Intelligence is another good org, though more complicated to engage with. Self inquiry methods like Focusing and IFS are taught widely, though adjacent to the skill I'm referring to. For a more comprehensive meditation skill set, see Judith Blackstone's books, and seek sessions / trainings in Realization Process. There are tens or hundreds of other ways to learn these things ... I keep thinking I should write a long article I can link to when these questions come up.

by tern 4y ago

bgoated01 4y ago

Do you have any good resources for learning these practical tools you mention?

tern 4y ago
The simplest recommendation I can make is to find EmRes training https://www.emotionalhealthinstitute.org/ https://www.emotionalhealthinstitute.org/ This woman offers a very affordable and simple training https://www.eventbrite.com/e/introduction-to-emotional-resolution-tickets-237943283767 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/introduction-to-emotional-resol... Organic Intelligence is another good org, though more complicated to engage with. Self inquiry methods like Focusing and IFS are taught widely, though adjacent to the skill I'm referring to. For a more comprehensive meditation skill set, see Judith Blackstone's books, and seek sessions / trainings in Realization Process. There are tens or hundreds of other ways to learn these things ... I keep thinking I should write a long article I can link to when these questions come up.