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This is one of the culture differences between the US and EU for alot of people (though this is changing in the US) Personally I value my "work". That is not t

This is one of the culture differences between the US and EU for alot of people (though this is changing in the US) Personally I value my "work". That is not to say I value my efforts for my employer which makes this hard to explain. I do not find value is laying around, vacationing, sports, or any other traditional "leisure" activity. I like to work So even when I am not "working" for pay for my employer, I am still working. I am going a personal coding project, or working on my home, or working on my car, or working in some other way. I work... weather it is for pay, for my own personal pleasure.

maxwell 4y ago
https://www.hellahealth.com/blog/wellness/regrets-old-age https://www.hellahealth.com/blog/wellness/regrets-old-age
- phpisthebest 4y ago
  >>Most of their regrets revolved around their family and how they wish relationships, usually either with their children or between their children I am willing to bet, that if you met many of these people in the 40's and 50;'s (where I am today) they would have the same statements. I too sometimes regret I am not closer with family, or have more "friends" but at the same time I do not have the desire to change that reality at all... It is complex psychological problem for me I have always since my teens been a "loner", I do not have the mental stamina to be around people for long periods of time. Once of the reasons I would attracted to computer programming, even when working in a "team" you work alone for large periods of time. To be clear I am not really a introvert or rather I am both an introvert and an extrovert when the situation requires it, I can carry a conversion, I can be "the life the room" but I find it mentally draining and exhausting to the point where if I am at a conference for example, I need a few days completely alone after to decompress. So sure I sometimes regret that was not born with the mental gift of being able form these close continual bonds with people... but at the same time I dont have the desire to change that element of myself... if that makes any sense at all.
arlort 4y ago
> I am going a personal coding project, or working on my home, or working on my car, or working in some other way That's not working, that's having hobbies (and it's a good thing)

maxwell 4y ago

https://www.hellahealth.com/blog/wellness/regrets-old-age https://www.hellahealth.com/blog/wellness/regrets-old-age

phpisthebest 4y ago
>>Most of their regrets revolved around their family and how they wish relationships, usually either with their children or between their children I am willing to bet, that if you met many of these people in the 40's and 50;'s (where I am today) they would have the same statements. I too sometimes regret I am not closer with family, or have more "friends" but at the same time I do not have the desire to change that reality at all... It is complex psychological problem for me I have always since my teens been a "loner", I do not have the mental stamina to be around people for long periods of time. Once of the reasons I would attracted to computer programming, even when working in a "team" you work alone for large periods of time. To be clear I am not really a introvert or rather I am both an introvert and an extrovert when the situation requires it, I can carry a conversion, I can be "the life the room" but I find it mentally draining and exhausting to the point where if I am at a conference for example, I need a few days completely alone after to decompress. So sure I sometimes regret that was not born with the mental gift of being able form these close continual bonds with people... but at the same time I dont have the desire to change that element of myself... if that makes any sense at all.

arlort 4y ago

> I am going a personal coding project, or working on my home, or working on my car, or working in some other way That's not working, that's having hobbies (and it's a good thing)