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What if she is wrong? The problem with this discussion, and the reason I'm not otherwise participating in it, is that because I have a penis I'll automatically

What if she is wrong? The problem with this discussion, and the reason I'm not otherwise participating in it, is that because I have a penis I'll automatically be accused of sexism if I do not agree with the author's claims. This isn't about getting at what happened, this is about everyone needing to tip-toe on eggshells because whenever this topic is raised, everyone is automatically wrong. If you're a woman who brings up sexism, you're automatically too emotional or oversensitive. If you're a man who dares question a particular case of alleged sexism, you're sexist, but you're just too sexist to know that you're sexist. I dislike your insinuation that someone who claims sexism can't be wrong. I also dislike the amount of psychoanalysis that's going on in this whole thread, including yours. Everything in this thread eventually boils down to: you're a woman, you're emotional. You're a man, you're pig-headed. The whole thing is a gigantic exercise in absurd extremes that have little basis in reality.

parfe 15y ago
>What if she is wrong? And what if she is? Debating the correctness of her interpretation only distracts from her point that If you act in the way described towards an engineer you could make her feel like the author. >I dislike your insinuation that someone who claims sexism can't be wrong. The comments here focus on the event itself rather than dealing with the actual topic of the blog post. People care more about inconsequential details than the social and professional implications the author describes.
- jtheory 15y ago
  Yes, this. It's a blog post; she's relating an anecdote, not compiling evidence for a court case. It's perfectly plausible, if you take for granted the context that she mentions -- in total & over time, it was frustrating enough that she left the job. But the topic is "sensitive", so suddenly everyone turns into lawyers and now it's very important to find out if that particular experience is really sexism, because if not we don't have to have this excruciating conversation. Who knew you could be sexist without, you know, groping someone or constantly making blonde jokes? This subtlety thing sucks; you have to actually think to avoid sexism, apparently.

parfe 15y ago

>What if she is wrong? And what if she is? Debating the correctness of her interpretation only distracts from her point that If you act in the way described towards an engineer you could make her feel like the author. >I dislike your insinuation that someone who claims sexism can't be wrong. The comments here focus on the event itself rather than dealing with the actual topic of the blog post. People care more about inconsequential details than the social and professional implications the author describes.

jtheory 15y ago
Yes, this. It's a blog post; she's relating an anecdote, not compiling evidence for a court case. It's perfectly plausible, if you take for granted the context that she mentions -- in total & over time, it was frustrating enough that she left the job. But the topic is "sensitive", so suddenly everyone turns into lawyers and now it's very important to find out if that particular experience is really sexism, because if not we don't have to have this excruciating conversation. Who knew you could be sexist without, you know, groping someone or constantly making blonde jokes? This subtlety thing sucks; you have to actually think to avoid sexism, apparently.