Interestingly, she assumes and reinforces the stereotypes herself: Just go and lob a few complaints about her behavior that would never apply to a guy. The

Interestingly, she assumes and reinforces the stereotypes herself: Just go and lob a few complaints about her behavior that would never apply to a guy. The easiest one of these is to say "you're being too emotional". This is plain false. Guys also catch flack for being too emotionally invested in something all the time. Someone proposes a solution, you criticise it and they get overly defensive? Someone reports on an issue and is really harsh about the person that caused it? Someone's performance goes subpar, but when confronted, they are afraid to tell you what's wrong? That's all emotion and they will all be called out for it by a decent manager. Here's what you do. After the meeting, you get her on chat and you say "wow, you were really hard on S". Here she again assumes guys never get this line from their manager, which is again plain false. Good managers will call guys out on internal rivalries, lack of empathy or whatever other emotional reason there was for 'being really hard on X'. These kinds of statements reinforce the stereotypes, because they reiterate the perceived status quo, where guys are non-emotional and thus never criticised for it. That whole line of reasoning is just wrong for anyone that wants to push for more equality. More equality does not mean showing women are more like the stereotypical men: it just as often means showing that men are more like stereotypical women.