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Two things slightly related: 1. Doing a job as a model when I was very young (17) in which I was sexually abused. 2. Not going to university After first, I g

Two things slightly related: 1. Doing a job as a model when I was very young (17) in which I was sexually abused. 2. Not going to university After first, I got totally lost and torture myself. A lot. I didn't put priorities in order nor seek for help. I wasted a lot of time doing shitty jobs for having some money, having terrible relationships and doing sports heavily to keep me distracted until one day I decided it was enough and did two HNCs related with computer science (which is something I was always passionate about). I cannot complain about the jobs I've had nor the amount of money I earn right now but I'm 33 years old and I if I could change anything, would be definitely those two points. The first was not by choice, but I should have been more cautious. PD: Holy fuck. I think is the first time I feel brave enough for mention this "out loud" to someone.

throwaway8383d 4y ago
Thank you for sharing your deeply personal experience, I’m sorry to read you’ve been through that.
austinjp 4y ago
Sounds like a really shitty experience. Just a reminder of something which you know anyway: it's the perpetrator's fault, not yours. I guess I want to say something trite like "don't hang onto regret (or what feels like it) for someone else's actions" but I realise that's way simplistic. It seems that you were just living your life, working a job. That's normal, and (again overly trite, apologies) nothing to regret. Best wishes!! Edit: On re-reading what I wrote, it might seem that I'm saying you don't have the right to feel regret. Not my intention, sorry if it reads that way. It feels, though, that you shouldn't have to feel regret for living a normal life with normal decisions.
ta988 4y ago
Thanks for sharing, and it is not your fault!
mbrodersen 4y ago
Talking about it openly and repeatedly is the best way to reduce the power of any trauma.

throwaway8383d 4y ago

Thank you for sharing your deeply personal experience, I’m sorry to read you’ve been through that.

austinjp 4y ago

Sounds like a really shitty experience. Just a reminder of something which you know anyway: it's the perpetrator's fault, not yours. I guess I want to say something trite like "don't hang onto regret (or what feels like it) for someone else's actions" but I realise that's way simplistic. It seems that you were just living your life, working a job. That's normal, and (again overly trite, apologies) nothing to regret. Best wishes!! Edit: On re-reading what I wrote, it might seem that I'm saying you don't have the right to feel regret. Not my intention, sorry if it reads that way. It feels, though, that you shouldn't have to feel regret for living a normal life with normal decisions.

ta988 4y ago

Thanks for sharing, and it is not your fault!

mbrodersen 4y ago

Talking about it openly and repeatedly is the best way to reduce the power of any trauma.