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> If Alex is willing to lie and also gaslight someone about breakfast, Alex isn't safe to be around. If a man lies and tells his wife she doesn't look fat in t
by P5fRxh5kUvp2th 4y ago
> If Alex is willing to lie and also gaslight someone about breakfast, Alex isn't safe to be around.
If a man lies and tells his wife she doesn't look fat in that outfit, is he unsafe to be around?
I know it's generational, but I really can't wait for reasonableness to be vogue again.
- danparsonson 4y agoLying and gaslighting are two different things. Gaslighting involves lying but is also about invalidating the victim's memory and feelings in an attempt to control them in some way. Telling a partner they look good is not generally gaslighting.
- P5fRxh5kUvp2th 4y agooh I'm sorry... if a man gaslights and tells his wife she doesn't look fat in that outfit...
- danparsonson 4y agoAgain, those are two different things.
- PuppyTailWags 4y agoLying isn't the same thing. In that moment, the man is just being dishonest. Later, if the wife brings up the incident and the man claims it both never happened and she constantly makes shit up like this, then yes he is gaslighting and is deeply unsafe.