It's not about how well your memory works; it's about how you can be convinced not to believe yourself. This extends not just to what you remember but how you r

It's not about how well your memory works; it's about how you can be convinced not to believe yourself. This extends not just to what you remember but how you remember it. For example, saying something extremely insulting or demeaning and then acting extremely hurt when there's pushback and accusing the person pushing back of malice and harm. This strategy can often take someone offguard, especially if they genuinely care for and want the relationship to remain positive, being told that no, they are actually the party that is causing drama/hurting others can really fuck up the psyche even if they remember that they were the ones insulted, because the situation repositions that they are the ones at fault for feeling hurt and their hurt feelings are bad/should be suppressed to maintain the relationship.