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I might get downvoted for this but what the hell. Did you effing have to mention the younger girlfriend prize while talking about honor of all things? You just

by blurry 18y ago

I might get downvoted for this but what the hell. Did you effing have to mention the younger girlfriend prize while talking about honor of all things? You just made me and every other female/over 30 reader feel like shit. If you think we all get worthless as we grow older, have the decency of keeping it to yourself. Especially if you are going to expound the moral virtues of treating people right. "Think twice before passing forward your pain, be it by inaction or by delusion" indeed.

alecco 18y ago
Sorry about that. My point was the greedy wife left him when he most needed her. The girlfriend was a successful entrepreneur all by herself. And she was 40. Far from a young trophy girlfriend. And I think it's wrong to measure how much you are worth by looks in the first place. My mistake was mentioning age, but note I didn't say she was prettier (she wasn't.) (And you got my up vote, you are right.)
- j2d2 18y ago
  but note I didn't say she was prettier (she wasn't.) now you did. just sayin'
kirse 18y ago
Where exactly did this get mentioned in his post? If you think we all get worthless as we grow older.
mroman 18y ago
I think your comment was very immature and unwarranted. The man's wife was wrong to leave him. The younger and prettier woman was smart and fortunate enough to have found a worthwhile man.
- trevelyan 18y ago
  I'm male and reacted the same way as blurry. It's a puerile touch. Perhaps we can avoid this sort of thing in the future?
  - mroman 18y ago
    I believe the person was simply reporting on the facts, and I think that pointing out that fact (that the new wife was young and pretty) was valid, as it illustrated one of the ways that the man's efforts paid off, how life rewarded his honesty, integrity, and commitment to do the right thing. It made me feel good actually, some woman leaves him FOR DOING THE RIGHT THING . . . but then, eventually, why, he meets a great woman who is in many ways (including young and pretty) better than the other one. How wonderful! Good for him! Good for her! I love it when someone who does the right thing is rewarded. Would it have been better you think if he had remained single, or if he had ended up with a wife that was not as great as the one that left him?
    - Hexstream 18y ago
      "Would it have been better you think if he had remained single, or if he had ended up with a wife that was not as great as the one that left him?" I think it wouldn't have been mentionned in the story then. Still a valid, if rethoric, question.
      - mroman 18y ago
        I agree. I like that story, wish there were more like it!
- run4yourlives 18y ago
  I think what's wrong is the approach that a partner in life is some sort of trophy to be had. That's why his wife left him - she wasn't really in it for him, she was playing her role. To succeed in love, find the one that loves you at your worst. That's my two cents.
  - mroman 18y ago
    > To succeed in love, find the one that loves you at your worst. > That's my two cents. Absolutely. Been through that BTW, so I know how that works. Doesn't the Judeo-Christian wedding ceremony include the vow (paraphrasing) that people stick together in good and bad times? Finding out that your worth as a mate to someone depends on the current bank balance is one HELL of a rude awakening. Great learning experience though, I would not have it any other way.
timbo 18y ago
"His wife left him." Hahaha, over 30 isn't old, women are just to wrapped up in appearence, because hey, if your husband can't make money, you gotta find one that does right?
- bonsaitree 18y ago
  Over 30 could be considered "old" from a child-bearing perspective. Risks of mis-carriage and birth defects start to skyrocket after ~33 for women. Still, I agree that the age comment only detracts from the core message of the post.
MHollender 18y ago
"You just made me and every other female/over 30 reader feel like shit." Why do you care what other people think of your age or anything? If someone wrote "she got a boyfriend with a much smaller beer gut", should I feel bad just because I have a significant beer gut? Nay. Other people's priorities is other people's business. Always being scared knee-jerk of saying anything less than happy-positive-sugar-candy because it might offend someone somewhere is a sure way to become unable to express anything important.

by blurry 18y ago

alecco 18y ago

Sorry about that. My point was the greedy wife left him when he most needed her. The girlfriend was a successful entrepreneur all by herself. And she was 40. Far from a young trophy girlfriend. And I think it's wrong to measure how much you are worth by looks in the first place. My mistake was mentioning age, but note I didn't say she was prettier (she wasn't.) (And you got my up vote, you are right.)

j2d2 18y ago
but note I didn't say she was prettier (she wasn't.) now you did. just sayin'

kirse 18y ago

Where exactly did this get mentioned in his post? If you think we all get worthless as we grow older.

mroman 18y ago

I think your comment was very immature and unwarranted. The man's wife was wrong to leave him. The younger and prettier woman was smart and fortunate enough to have found a worthwhile man.

trevelyan 18y ago
I'm male and reacted the same way as blurry. It's a puerile touch. Perhaps we can avoid this sort of thing in the future?
- mroman 18y ago
  I believe the person was simply reporting on the facts, and I think that pointing out that fact (that the new wife was young and pretty) was valid, as it illustrated one of the ways that the man's efforts paid off, how life rewarded his honesty, integrity, and commitment to do the right thing. It made me feel good actually, some woman leaves him FOR DOING THE RIGHT THING . . . but then, eventually, why, he meets a great woman who is in many ways (including young and pretty) better than the other one. How wonderful! Good for him! Good for her! I love it when someone who does the right thing is rewarded. Would it have been better you think if he had remained single, or if he had ended up with a wife that was not as great as the one that left him?
  - Hexstream 18y ago
    "Would it have been better you think if he had remained single, or if he had ended up with a wife that was not as great as the one that left him?" I think it wouldn't have been mentionned in the story then. Still a valid, if rethoric, question.
    - mroman 18y ago
      I agree. I like that story, wish there were more like it!
run4yourlives 18y ago
I think what's wrong is the approach that a partner in life is some sort of trophy to be had. That's why his wife left him - she wasn't really in it for him, she was playing her role. To succeed in love, find the one that loves you at your worst. That's my two cents.
- mroman 18y ago
  > To succeed in love, find the one that loves you at your worst. > That's my two cents. Absolutely. Been through that BTW, so I know how that works. Doesn't the Judeo-Christian wedding ceremony include the vow (paraphrasing) that people stick together in good and bad times? Finding out that your worth as a mate to someone depends on the current bank balance is one HELL of a rude awakening. Great learning experience though, I would not have it any other way.

timbo 18y ago

"His wife left him." Hahaha, over 30 isn't old, women are just to wrapped up in appearence, because hey, if your husband can't make money, you gotta find one that does right?

bonsaitree 18y ago
Over 30 could be considered "old" from a child-bearing perspective. Risks of mis-carriage and birth defects start to skyrocket after ~33 for women. Still, I agree that the age comment only detracts from the core message of the post.

MHollender 18y ago

"You just made me and every other female/over 30 reader feel like shit." Why do you care what other people think of your age or anything? If someone wrote "she got a boyfriend with a much smaller beer gut", should I feel bad just because I have a significant beer gut? Nay. Other people's priorities is other people's business. Always being scared knee-jerk of saying anything less than happy-positive-sugar-candy because it might offend someone somewhere is a sure way to become unable to express anything important.