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Better answer to the title question: https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/09/style/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/09/style/no-37-big-wedding-o... Some researchers got together and devised questions that get to the vulnerable parts of a person's life, giving you that connection rather efficiently (conversation while following the questions, allowing for tangents, has taken me 1-2 hours on average).