>Shame is powerful and necessary, but it's very much a first step punishment, a warning, not an ultimate one. It's the dog growling to get you to back off so i

>Shame is powerful and necessary, but it's very much a first step punishment, a warning, not an ultimate one. It's the dog growling to get you to back off so it doesn't have to bite you. >This mismatch between perceived intensity and the real thing is seen everywhere these days: insecurity, activism, political projections. This derives from the zero-tolerance policies in school. No bullying allowed and so people, millenials, never quite earnt or understand this. >It seems we solved so many important problems that humans have reset their baseline of comfort to confuse unease with danger. A common thing for humans. Right now it's like 18c outside and im freezing. But in the spring when it's 15c its soooo warm. the same goes for pleasure and pain. If you're always comfortable, you end up needing more and more pleasure heading to an extreme just to be happy. Societies even have this problem, when pleasure becomes imbalanced you end up throwing people to the lions.