5 ms·

Agree with sibling commenters here critiquing this for being an oversimplification- nature vs nurture is not a binary. But even aside from the core of the argu

Agree with sibling commenters here critiquing this for being an oversimplification- nature vs nurture is not a binary. But even aside from the core of the argument, I find your phraseology oddly formulaic. It's ironic you're accusing the OP of having a "fixed mindset" when so much of your contributed "opinion" is clearly copypasted from books. I'd suggest opening your own mindset to forming a worldview of your own rather than following growth gurus so blindly.

robertlagrant 4y ago
Phrasing and mindset aren't the same.
- roey2009 4y ago
  They are more indicative of one another, than a direct analogy. Whether you blame another, view some traits as faults, idolise some concept or are blind to some thing, all are appearant in your writing and speech.
  - robertlagrant 4y ago
    You're overreading into a message typed into a forum. I've noticed mistakes in your post, but I don't then assume you're careless in every aspect. You could just be having a bad day, or English could be a second language. I don't know, so I don't assume.
- lucideer 4y ago
  True and fair. My observations may be misguided- I thought them appropriate to voice regardless purely in the context of the condescending & ironic nature of the observations the gp made about the op.
kthejoker2 4y ago
Thanks for the patented HN contrarian view! :) It's true, comment boards reward the "oddly formulaic" - cliches and well-worn passages carry extra weight. They also lead to weird leaps of illogic, like your assumption I follow any growth gurus at all! Happy to have a longer conversation offline if you'd rather address a man instead of a strawman.
- lucideer 4y ago
  I found your comment condescending: the tone assumes you have absolute knowledge and that the OP is immediately "wrong" in their approach. It's an extremely dismissive way to respond to someone asking for pretty specific advice. So I addressed that. I didn't intend it as ad hominem against your character - I only intended to address the specific contents of your comment, so apologies for the guru comment (I just assumed you followed them since you were recommending their handbooks).

robertlagrant 4y ago

Phrasing and mindset aren't the same.

roey2009 4y ago
They are more indicative of one another, than a direct analogy. Whether you blame another, view some traits as faults, idolise some concept or are blind to some thing, all are appearant in your writing and speech.
- robertlagrant 4y ago
  You're overreading into a message typed into a forum. I've noticed mistakes in your post, but I don't then assume you're careless in every aspect. You could just be having a bad day, or English could be a second language. I don't know, so I don't assume.
lucideer 4y ago
True and fair. My observations may be misguided- I thought them appropriate to voice regardless purely in the context of the condescending & ironic nature of the observations the gp made about the op.

kthejoker2 4y ago

Thanks for the patented HN contrarian view! :) It's true, comment boards reward the "oddly formulaic" - cliches and well-worn passages carry extra weight. They also lead to weird leaps of illogic, like your assumption I follow any growth gurus at all! Happy to have a longer conversation offline if you'd rather address a man instead of a strawman.

lucideer 4y ago
I found your comment condescending: the tone assumes you have absolute knowledge and that the OP is immediately "wrong" in their approach. It's an extremely dismissive way to respond to someone asking for pretty specific advice. So I addressed that. I didn't intend it as ad hominem against your character - I only intended to address the specific contents of your comment, so apologies for the guru comment (I just assumed you followed them since you were recommending their handbooks).