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Church is really the classical place. It's a shame there's not a similar place for large groups of secular people to gather once a week for social events.
by thatguy0900 4y ago
Church is really the classical place. It's a shame there's not a similar place for large groups of secular people to gather once a week for social events.
- andrewinardeer 4y agoSporting events fit that bill. As long as the other is going for the same team I would think.
- bradlys 4y agoAre we talking about paying for seats to spectate? Cause if so - I highly disagree. You might get lucky every so often but I found people generally keep to themselves/their friend group.
- spicyusername 4y agoCan't agree more. Many of my neighbors go to church and I'm very jealous at how much social capital it provides every single week for essentially free. It's such a shame that something so good is wrapped in something so silly.
- danuker 4y agoI don't go to church, but I interpret the silliness less literally. For instance, replace God and Jesus with the Superego and Id respectively. You'd be surprised at how much sense some quotes make. But religion is so vague, it's almost mad-lib. And some parts will still be complete nonsense or primitive statecraft memes. Sharing this with other church-goers might not be well received, also.
- capableweb 4y agoNot sure if it exists in your country, but all over Europe there are "Civic Centers" that host various cultural events, activities and curses where you can meet people from all walks of life. Great place to meet people with the same interests as you and usually hosts relatively cheap events as it's meant to be attend-able for all people.
- NoGravitas 4y agoUnitarian Universalist Church. Ethical Culture Society. There are quite a few non-credal churches or "not-a-church" organizations built along churchy lines.
- the_af 4y agoMany people bond over political activism and political groups. I know many such couples. 100% secular, no gods involved, no "church" even in the name.
- Test0129 4y agoI would argue in the current climate "political activism" and "political groups" have replaced God and the Church as a religion. Secular, certainly, religious absolutely. I've heard from some people that they won't even consider dating someone who has even an iota difference in political views. If this doesn't sound like religious dogma I'm not sure what would.
- netsharc 4y agoAnd whatever the "elders" say, they agree, no critical thinking allowed!
- swat535 4y agoI'm a Catholic so I attend Church often and in my experience, it really depends on how the Parish runs; in some places, people literally show up 5-10 minutes before Mass and then rush to the parking lot as soon as it ends, so you never have a chance to speak to anyone. However, in contrast, my fiance is from Peru and goes to a Latin Church; there you have a very strong sense of community and can meet plenty of people. Also, you probably won't be meeting your SO at the Church directly but you will most likely be introduced _through_ someone from the community (especially older people who have bigger families). The other thing about religious communities is that "dating" is not about hookups or casual sex but more about about finding life long partners and marriage. This can be a blessing or a curse depending on what stage of life you are in (though if you are truly devout, you won't mind) so it's not perfect. Anyway, for non religious people, there are still plenty of ways to meet: Volunteering programs, social clubs, sport centers, etc. The only advice I would give is meet as many people as possible because chances are your potential partner will be introduced to you through friends of friends eventually.