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>As a man, online dating is already a miserable experience. Based on what I've heard from women, it's bad for them too. Easy to find a root, but hard to find

>As a man, online dating is already a miserable experience. Based on what I've heard from women, it's bad for them too. Easy to find a root, but hard to find someone to introduce to mum and dad. IRL dating is worse. Apparently in the post-#metoo era men just stopped talking to women in general.

midoridensha 4y ago
Online dating is much safer than meeting women IRL. If you try to ask out women IRL, the chance for rejection is extremely high (they probably aren't looking for a date at all, after all), and if it's at work, that opens another big can of worms. If you meet someone on a dating site, then you know they're interested in dating. And if you mutually match them (as most apps work now), you know they're at least a little bit interested in you.
- AussieWog93 4y ago
  100%. But this is not a positive thing for men or women.
  - midoridensha 4y ago
    How is this not positive? It keeps people from wasting their time and effort on people who aren't interested, and helps keep people (mainly women) from being harassed by men they aren't interested in, in inappropriate venues (like work), by giving those seeking dates an appropriate venue for their search. If only the dating app companies were treating their job with respect and as a duty to society instead of perverting it for profit incentive, it would work much better for its intended function than it does now.
    - AussieWog93 4y ago
      >How is this not positive? Just repeating what I've been told, mainly by "older" women (30+), many people like that sort of attention, and miss it when they no longer receive it (more of a thing for 50+ people). It's often not perceived as harassment or inappropriate, but of course it varies from person to person and also depends on how it's phrased ("would you like to get a coffee?" vs. "I want to cum on your face").

midoridensha 4y ago

Online dating is much safer than meeting women IRL. If you try to ask out women IRL, the chance for rejection is extremely high (they probably aren't looking for a date at all, after all), and if it's at work, that opens another big can of worms. If you meet someone on a dating site, then you know they're interested in dating. And if you mutually match them (as most apps work now), you know they're at least a little bit interested in you.

AussieWog93 4y ago
100%. But this is not a positive thing for men or women.
- midoridensha 4y ago
  How is this not positive? It keeps people from wasting their time and effort on people who aren't interested, and helps keep people (mainly women) from being harassed by men they aren't interested in, in inappropriate venues (like work), by giving those seeking dates an appropriate venue for their search. If only the dating app companies were treating their job with respect and as a duty to society instead of perverting it for profit incentive, it would work much better for its intended function than it does now.
  - AussieWog93 4y ago
    >How is this not positive? Just repeating what I've been told, mainly by "older" women (30+), many people like that sort of attention, and miss it when they no longer receive it (more of a thing for 50+ people). It's often not perceived as harassment or inappropriate, but of course it varies from person to person and also depends on how it's phrased ("would you like to get a coffee?" vs. "I want to cum on your face").