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interesting that he's so programmed to work that just relaxing for a bit made him depressed. hard to see how working 11 hours a day is going to make it easier
by darod 4y ago
interesting that he's so programmed to work that just relaxing for a bit made him depressed. hard to see how working 11 hours a day is going to make it easier for him to still not have to put his kids on the calendar.
on a side note, i wonder if the actual therapy was just doing something physical. sitting down not moving for hours and hours is not what we were built to do. i always found working out, brazilian jiu jitsu, hiking, anything physical to be very therapeutic if i've been inside an office all day.
- dfxm12 4y agoMore than just doing something physical, something group/team/class based like BJJ would also give the camaraderie and socialization that satisfied him. I hear a lot of retired people say "I miss working", but when probed, they'll say things like "I miss the routine", "I miss the people I saw all the time", "I miss the structure". Work is not the only place you get these! Going to BJJ, kickboxing, clay studios, adult sports leagues, walking groups, some volunteer opportunities, etc., all fit the bill. I think some people put so much of their life/identity into work that they can't even imagine something else...
- germinalphrase 4y agoIf anyone is interested in trying Brazilian jiu jitsu, just know it’s common to be completely confused for a while before the different positions/techniques start to click. It’s like a huge flowchart, and you’re randomly jumping into the middle somewhere.
- darod 4y agoyup, baby steps (black belt 2nd degree)