Like the sibling comment, I feel like we are talking about different things. You're talking about right and wrong paths and careers. I'm talking about choices

Like the sibling comment, I feel like we are talking about different things. You're talking about right and wrong paths and careers. I'm talking about choices like kids, prioritizing salary over flexibility etc. I am not arguing that people in tech are there purely based on merit and no luck. I am saying people that are already in tech make choices that give them more or less flexibility. Chasing a job at FAANG to get a massive salary and then using the salary to get an expensive car and massive mortgage is the wrong choice if you want flexibility. But it probably is the right choice if you want an expensive car and expensive house.