Not having kids, I feel like a family clears up the optimization problem of: * what should I be doing with my time? * what is important to think about? As a

Not having kids, I feel like a family clears up the optimization problem of: * what should I be doing with my time? * what is important to think about? As a software dev with a flexible schedule, my life feels arbitrary. I pick up hobbies because I need stuff to do, I try to eat better to take care of myself, I save money and live frugally for a rainy day. But there's no common thread to all these. It's just stuff I picked.