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When I was a graduate student, I often participated in summer schools and conferences where there was a strict schedule that included two or three meals a day.

• pipeline_peak 4y ago
  > I would like to live all of my life so that someone else would schedule my life for me, cook meals at right times, etc. > how to organize my life like a one big summer school It sounds like you don’t want to take on being an adult. Responsibility gives you independence and power, you might want a therapist to help persuade and shortly guide you that.
  • vjk800 4y ago
    Spot on. I don't want independence and I have no use for power. I just want to focus on having fun and spending time with good people without managing every single minor aspect of my life and having responsibility over stuff I don't care about. I could also to something useful, i.e. work, if absolutely needed. Is this too much to ask? I think that in the past loads of people lived like this; powerful people had lots servants to take care of the mundane stuff while they themselves concentrated on the big picture, while the servants lived almost like children in their master's households, focusing on the responsibilities they were paid for. I already have a therapist, but so far he hasn't been able to turn me into a proper adult. Oh, and by the way, I'm close to 40 now so I don't think anymore that this is just a passing phase.
    • pipeline_peak 4y ago
      > I don't want independence and I have no use for power. I used to think like this, it's easy to dismiss, "I want power" sounds like something a maniac would say. I don't believe you truly don't want independence, maybe less, but that still sounds like a real issue. > I think that in the past loads of people lived like this; > servants lived almost like children That's absolutely not true, I'm no history buff, but servants had all sorts of pressure and responsibility put on them. Their tasks may have been menial in skill, but they were damn well complicated. Imagine bringing the wrong drink or spilling a glass of wine in front of the king, off with your head. They seem like children to us because life is so much more complex, we didn't die at 30. > already have a therapist, but so far he hasn't been able to turn me into a man Maybe I've mistaken your casual wording, but it's not their job to turn you into anything, they're supposed to at the very least analyze. Depending on their practice, they might give concrete guidance. If you want to be some wealthy old mans pet, that's fine by me, but I don't believe you don't want independence, no one doesn't. I think you're just overwhelmed by the mundane obstacles we all need to pass to earn it. For example: >I just want to focus on having fun and spending time with good people without managing every single minor aspect of my life and having responsibility over stuff I don't care about That's the bare minimum of reality, we've all got those things, even Kim Kardashian. Maybe your job is too complicated and demanding? There's a place you can reduce your responsibility, but it doesn't have to be so black and white.
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• azmodeus 4y ago
  We used to do this with flatmates with dinner duty. One of us would cook dinner every night for the whole flat based on a rota. We were 5 people and all pretty close so that definitely helped!
• mateo411 4y ago
  You could live on a cruise ship. They have a daily schedule for fun activities and meal times. For many people, it is more fun than joining a monastery.
  • vjk800 4y ago
    This is an excellent idea. I need to be a bit wealthier to do it though.
• mrpowelldev 4y ago
  Flirted with a similar idea. The root of it was to externalize the mundane aspects of day-to-day life. The mundane: food, laundry, cleaning. Food had two broad strategies: (1) Repeated Deliveries of staples with one afternoon a week dedicated to cooking, portioning and freezing. Meals are labeled and microwaved as needed. (2) Ad-hoc Food Delivery, think Uber Eats or Doordash for most meals. I found 2 to be excessively expensive. 1 requires dish-washing but I can mitigate it with using disposables whenever possible. 1 also requires setting up repeated automated deliveries. I haven't quite figured out how to do this yet, but I'm sure there's an Instacart-type service for it. Laundry: there are door-to-door laundry services, and/or using an in-house cleaning service mentioned below Cleaning: there are maid services. If well-planned you could have them arrive to wash the dishes created in the above step, as well as retrieve/put-away laundry. A robot-vaccuum helps between cleanings. As for activities with people with similar schedules, that's the difficult part. Adults are chaotic. There's signing up for the military, which would also neatly handle your other items. So far I've found that a co-worker-based activity group is reliable. You all get off about the same time, the people are relatively stable from week-to-week, and you all have similar work lives. Second best was a regularly scheduled meetup group.
• gilmore606 4y ago
  Prison fulfills all these requirements, plus toilet wine.