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Online dating also enables men to say hi to women you may never have been able to if you just waited on organic situations. Some men are just not great at initi

by bruceb 4y ago

Online dating also enables men to say hi to women you may never have been able to if you just waited on organic situations. Some men are just not great at initiating conversation. In some areas it is going to be more difficult and those areas probably are over represented on HN. SF/Bay Area, Seattle, Bangalore etc. The dating apps can't change the male to female ratio.

durnygbur 4y ago
Not really, a man is brutally paywalled to interact or even to bubble up. The asynchronicity can be noted when some women's bios write "just write to me", as women simply swipe right and after almost guaranteed match can send a message...
- dkarl 4y ago
  > a man is brutally paywalled to interact Does paying actually get you anywhere? Do you meet people you wouldn't have met without paying? I know they make it seem like it's going to help, but I have my doubts about whether it does. I think if you ignore the misleading marketing and go by results, paying for a basic subscription gives you the full benefit of the app.
  - muttled 4y ago
    I've done a couple of the premium subscriptions just to see if they're worth it. My experience was that you got to see people who had liked you but that the app just hadn't shown you yet, but other than that it didn't lead to any increase in dates. It doesn't show you any more often to people so although it allows you to swipe an unlimited amount of times, you might as well be screaming into a void. Just building up a larger list of people you've said "yes" to who will never see your profile. The "boost" functionality might get you an extra match or two, but with most conversations going nowhere the ROI is terrible.
- jrnichols 4y ago
  and Tinder used to charge men a LOT more money to get past that paywall too. https://www.vice.com/en/article/akzang/straight-middle-aged-men-are-being-charged-more-to-use-tinder-plus https://www.vice.com/en/article/akzang/straight-middle-aged-...

by bruceb 4y ago

durnygbur 4y ago

Not really, a man is brutally paywalled to interact or even to bubble up. The asynchronicity can be noted when some women's bios write "just write to me", as women simply swipe right and after almost guaranteed match can send a message...

dkarl 4y ago
> a man is brutally paywalled to interact Does paying actually get you anywhere? Do you meet people you wouldn't have met without paying? I know they make it seem like it's going to help, but I have my doubts about whether it does. I think if you ignore the misleading marketing and go by results, paying for a basic subscription gives you the full benefit of the app.
- muttled 4y ago
  I've done a couple of the premium subscriptions just to see if they're worth it. My experience was that you got to see people who had liked you but that the app just hadn't shown you yet, but other than that it didn't lead to any increase in dates. It doesn't show you any more often to people so although it allows you to swipe an unlimited amount of times, you might as well be screaming into a void. Just building up a larger list of people you've said "yes" to who will never see your profile. The "boost" functionality might get you an extra match or two, but with most conversations going nowhere the ROI is terrible.
jrnichols 4y ago
and Tinder used to charge men a LOT more money to get past that paywall too. https://www.vice.com/en/article/akzang/straight-middle-aged-men-are-being-charged-more-to-use-tinder-plus https://www.vice.com/en/article/akzang/straight-middle-aged-...