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Hi Micheal, I admire what you did, seriously. But here us the "but"... In no way am I understating the difficulty of what you have to go though. I am disabled
by FollowingTheDao 4y ago
Hi Micheal,
I admire what you did, seriously. But here us the "but"...
In no way am I understating the difficulty of what you have to go though. I am disabled myself and you should celebrate your success widely in t his forum.
However, you lost me when you said:
>Also, I would like to encourage disabled people, older people to escape your comfort zone and make changes in the world.
When you say that things like that you lump all disabilities into one amorphous blob and it actually harms the disabled community. That and your whole story is known as "Disability Porn".
Not all of us have disabilities that are constant and predictable. I was making six digits working at Cisco Systems and idea that I should struggle through it all for some notion of success almost killed me. I have Schizoaffective Bipolar Disorder. It is not predictable and it is way more stigmatized. Plus it get worse when you are under stress. I know you can appreciate that as the owner of a startup.
So people will read your story, then they ask me what I do and when I am disabled they say a lot of stupid sht like; "Why don't you get a part time job?" Or "You are so intelligent, can't you get an online job?" All because they heard some guy who was disabled by polio did a startup up, or a man with no legs climbed Mount Everest.
The part about telling us to "escape our comfort zone" was demeaning as well. In the U.S., many disabled people are forcefully pushed out of our comfort zones. I am currently homeless livening on disability as inflation makes me more and more uncomfortable.
This is not to say I do not keep trying. I have taught my self Genetics, Nutritional Biology, amount other health related sciences in hope to keep me alive with this genetic disorder. But there were times when the effort involved to merely brush my teeth was all the success I could muster.
I am glad for you, really, but I had to say all this if not for anyone here, just for myself.
- dennis_jeeves1 4y agoThanks FollowingTheDao, this guy indeed needed the tough love that you provided. Their certainly was "Disability Porn" in his post. I suppose you get a free pass because you are disabled yourself, god forbid if a able bodied person said it.
- michaelcao 4y agoSorry to hear that. I was very lucky that I can walk, think and code. My dad was a doctor and he died because of lung cancer. I wish I could be a doctor in the childhood but my health said NO to me. Nutritional Biology is a great subject. I wish you all the best.
- wowai 4y agoSome great stuff you have said here, FollowingTheDao. The disabled are still so stigmatized in our society and while inspirational story like Michael's is one to learn from, it in no way dictates the whole community.
- michaelcao 4y agoThanks FollowingTheDao. I totally agree with you.