The part that you and peer commenters are missing -- they all wanted to see me, I _did_ travel to them, expended my limited PTO time and money to demonstrate th

The part that you and peer commenters are missing -- they all wanted to see me, I _did_ travel to them, expended my limited PTO time and money to demonstrate that the relationship was worth keeping alive etc. But it was unrequited. Thats the part that stings the lip service of "Yeah we'd love to make it there someday, why dont you come see us this year?"... I do it. They Dont.