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While not quibbling with the math, I think there are two things that mitigate this meaningfully. 1) quality of the time spent (I have more meaningful conversat
by balderdash 4y ago
While not quibbling with the math, I think there are two things that mitigate this meaningfully.
1) quality of the time spent (I have more meaningful conversations in a couple of hours now, than months as a child + much of that time was spent administratively / logistically)
2) voice / video / text communication is not meaningless (I’ve lived >1,500 miles from my parents for the past ~12 years, but on average probably talk to them one a week? Those conversations matter, and shouldn’t be discarded for in-person time)
- raverbashing 4y agoThis right here. Pretty much Call/text/etc your parents.
- lo_zamoyski 4y agoChildhood is much more than logistics and administration. Your parents are there during your formative years, teaching you, often through example. Also, your emphasis on conversation seems strange. As much as I like a good conversation, this is not what defines the parent-child relationship. It is not what makes this relationship valuable above all else. Who would you rather have? A parent who sacrifices immensely for your good, or a good conversationalist who can't be bothered?
- balderdash 4y agoEverything you said is true, and is not mutually exclusive with my point that all hours spent together should carry the same weight. I use the word conversation as a short hand for being present with someone. Just look around a restaurant and see families eating a meal together where some or all of them are lost in their phones/devices, in some respects those people are having dinner on their own. Put another way, I’ve seen plenty parents that are physically present, and emotionally absent, and other parents that may have have less physical hours spent with a child, but are more are more present and involved in their lives.