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My parents are my neighbours. It's great. One of the things I value most about how life turned out.

Ekaros 4y ago
I personally prefer to have some distance. In my case 10-15 minute drive. Enough to stop entirely random visits, but still nothing really stopping it.
- mrtranscendence 4y ago
  Yeah, I’m not much of a lover of visiting myself; I’m a half hour from my sister’s family and my mother (who live together) and that’s just about perfect. It’s close enough that I can help if they need me, but not so close that it’s easy for them to ask me to watch kids for them all the time … ok, I’m a selfish bastard, I admit it.
- fareesh 4y ago
  I work from my old room so they see me all the time. There's never a need to visit
bluGill 4y ago
The biggest downside of moving out of state is being so far from my family. There is so much support I used to get. Now I don't have an automatic babysitter I can trust. I don't have someone to come help when I need to a hand for something.
JshWright 4y ago
We were neighbors for ~5 years and eventually decided it was working well enough that in 2020 (just before the start of the pandemic, as it turned out) we bought a house with an "in-law" apartment and now my parents live under the same roof. The two spaces are separate (only the laundry room and garage are shared), so we're not right on top of each other, and it's working quite well so far. My kids are still young (10, 6, and 6), and my parents are in their early 60's. Barring any unforeseen circumstances, my kids will spend the majority of their childhood with nearly daily time spent with their grandparents. Similarly, a lot of end of life questions/complexities are already answered. My parents are in a home where they can age in place and we can provide care for them when their needs increase over the coming decades. I had some reservations, if I'm being honest (it was my wife and my mom who were the primary drivers of the plan), but having spent ~2.5 years in this arrangement so far, I really wouldn't trade it for anything.

I personally prefer to have some distance. In my case 10-15 minute drive. Enough to stop entirely random visits, but still nothing really stopping it.

mrtranscendence 4y ago
Yeah, I’m not much of a lover of visiting myself; I’m a half hour from my sister’s family and my mother (who live together) and that’s just about perfect. It’s close enough that I can help if they need me, but not so close that it’s easy for them to ask me to watch kids for them all the time … ok, I’m a selfish bastard, I admit it.
fareesh 4y ago
I work from my old room so they see me all the time. There's never a need to visit

bluGill 4y ago

The biggest downside of moving out of state is being so far from my family. There is so much support I used to get. Now I don't have an automatic babysitter I can trust. I don't have someone to come help when I need to a hand for something.

JshWright 4y ago

We were neighbors for ~5 years and eventually decided it was working well enough that in 2020 (just before the start of the pandemic, as it turned out) we bought a house with an "in-law" apartment and now my parents live under the same roof. The two spaces are separate (only the laundry room and garage are shared), so we're not right on top of each other, and it's working quite well so far. My kids are still young (10, 6, and 6), and my parents are in their early 60's. Barring any unforeseen circumstances, my kids will spend the majority of their childhood with nearly daily time spent with their grandparents. Similarly, a lot of end of life questions/complexities are already answered. My parents are in a home where they can age in place and we can provide care for them when their needs increase over the coming decades. I had some reservations, if I'm being honest (it was my wife and my mom who were the primary drivers of the plan), but having spent ~2.5 years in this arrangement so far, I really wouldn't trade it for anything.