My wife and I have 4 married children and two very new grandchildren by our 2 daughters. Every second weekend we try to catch up with one of the families - 3 a

My wife and I have 4 married children and two very new grandchildren by our 2 daughters. Every second weekend we try to catch up with one of the families - 3 are in one city 90 minutes drive away and other family is 2 hours away. We are cognisant that we are probably able to be more flexible (that said my widowed MIL is ill and needs some extra attention at the moment). My own parents aren't the easiest to deal with so while I do keep in contact it can be quite stressful. My sisters are 1000+ KMs away. The reality of family life isn't trivial.