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Learn to set boundaries with people. It was easy for me to think I was just being "nice" when in reality I was just bad at setting boundaries. I'm still not the

Learn to set boundaries with people. It was easy for me to think I was just being "nice" when in reality I was just bad at setting boundaries. I'm still not the best at setting boundaries, but at least now I recognize after the fact when I let someone over step, compared to when I was younger and just thought it was normal. For anyone curious this book helped me a lot: https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-When-Take-Control-Your/dp/B072C64V1L/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=boundaries&qid=1664792107&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIzLjUyIiwicXNhIjoiMi44NCIsInFzcCI6IjIuODYifQ%3D%3D&sr=8-1 https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-When-Take-Control-Your/dp/... especially the story at the very beginning.

pdimitar 4y ago
Ouch! I'm going exactly through the same thing right now. Trying to start a business and my cofounder will take absolutely everything that you give him and then demand more. We had several yelling competitions in the last days. Setting boundaries post factum is extremely hard and that is putting it mildly. Indeed, let's call it like it is -- I wasn't being nice; I was being a doormat. Very fresh and painful lessons that are even now still boiling and developing in my brain. Thank you for the advice. Trust me, it hit exactly where you meant it to. With 100% precision.