I'm not MTF, so I can't comment on that. I do know that the clash between what I heard from cis dudes and what I experienced/how I felt was part of figuring out

I'm not MTF, so I can't comment on that. I do know that the clash between what I heard from cis dudes and what I experienced/how I felt was part of figuring out I was nonbinary. They seem to revel in the positive expectations and seek out the validation and feel bad when they fall short of those expectations. They just didn't mesh with what I felt I wanted. I also don't mesh with most of the experiences and feelings I hear about from trans women. I knew about trans people, but had no idea about nonbinary as an identity until the 2010s, so I was pretty much listless and confused identity-wise until then. Now I keep meeting enby after enby whose experiences mesh with my own. >> "I’m wondering, do you feel like your experience has anything to do with your identity?" Identity is just a tag you put on a collection of experiences. You can take the tag off, add others, and make your own. Gender is a social construct, but it also seems to have a biological aspect that every culture we have meaningful records of found a way to apply socially.