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> "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me" That does not make it true. It is also not great to put the onus on the victim of bullyi
by brnt 4y ago
> "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me"
That does not make it true. It is also not great to put the onus on the victim of bullying.
As someone who was bullied quite severely, I always preferred a fist fight over words. Still do; feels more honest, less manipulative getting-in-your-head but more visceral and present. To each their own perhaps, underlining the fact that words can and perhaps should hurt as much as sticks and stones; if you think words mean something, well, then they mean something.
Confidence only gets you so far, there are no simple solutions. Any study on bullying will elucidate that fact.
- TexanFeller 4y agoI was severely bullied both verbally and physically. I would take verbally 10/10 times any day. Words hurt, but the fear of being severely physically hurt or accidentally killed is worse by miles.
- brnt 4y agoThanks for sharing. It's important to understand these experiences and coping mechanisms are highly personal. You can't bless one way of dealing with it over the others, because not everybody experiences it the same. Also, you only learn those things by experiencing them. I for instance appea to be fearless, but sensitive. I don't think me getting less sensitive is the answer, nor you sucking up your fear. The solution will be personal, but should involve us and bystanders to correct the bully, whether they throw punches or words.