A person can want to earn their own living while also wanting a viable and optimal partnership with a qualified person. If you see people as at least partially

A person can want to earn their own living while also wanting a viable and optimal partnership with a qualified person. If you see people as at least partially rational actors, "Have enough income on your own that you're not trapped in a situation with anyone," and, "Have a partner that is successful," aren't two opposed concepts. It's not a logical inconsistency, it's actually rational. I think you may be falsely equating "consistency" and "fairness," or "equability," but they're distinct concepts: A person can want to be successful and still find a successful partner more attractive. This isn't inconsistent.