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If I want to break up with a woman, without me doing the breaking up? I have a moment of vulnerability over something, even allow myself to cry. She'll do the
by at_a_remove 4y ago
If I want to break up with a woman, without me doing the breaking up? I have a moment of vulnerability over something, even allow myself to cry. She'll do the rest.
You're allowed to cry when your mother dies or your dog dies. Anything else and you may as well be wearing a dress. The constant encouragement to be vulnerable and express feelings is merely a test to make sure you're still "masculine enough."
- Buttons840 4y agoA social hacker! You never had to initiate the hard conversation. Just indulge your feelings a bit, it's even a little therapeutic, and then the burden for ending things is on her.
- at_a_remove 4y agoIf you want a moment of nastiness, during the Breakup Speech, you whirl around and say, "It's really because I cried over X, isn't it?" and there's this uncomfortable squirm and outright denial, because they will never admit it.
- tsol 4y ago>Anything else and you may as well be wearing a dress. I've always found it strange how women wearing men clothes is normal and just a style choice, while men wearing women's clothes is perverse and emasculating. Even many of the pro equality people feel this way
- oceanplexian 4y agoI’m not saying it’s fair, but it’s pretty obvious why this is the case. A 200lb man, who has the physical ability kill someone with their bare hands crying over an emotional vulnerability is scary. The issue isn’t “men aren’t allowed to have feelings”, but men are expected to have self-control over how they express themselves.