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>He is torn between being the kind of man he has been told to be and the kind of man the world seems to want now. Ironically, I think many men seem to experien
by the_jesus_villa 4y ago
>He is torn between being the kind of man he has been told to be and the kind of man the world seems to want now.
Ironically, I think many men seem to experience this in the opposite direction implied by the article. Men are told to be obedient male feminists, and they find a world in which that mentality sets them up for failure. Women on the otherhand are encouraged to pursue the "toxic masculinity" mindset that men have been chastized for.
So it seems that masculinity itself is a winning strategy, just the sex pursuing that strategy has partially reversed.
- bittercynic 4y agoFor any young people reading this and feeling hopeless - it's not universal. There are friend groups, companies, and places where people are kind to each other, and if someone comes in playing dominance hierarchy games (is this what you mean by 'toxic masculinity?) they will be politely redirected, and eventually shown the door. There are good situations out there, and as you get older you may gain the ability to explore more and find one.
- rglover 4y agoAny young man who is confused should read this series: https://www.amazon.com/Rational-Male-Rollo-Tomassi/dp/1492777862 https://www.amazon.com/Rational-Male-Rollo-Tomassi/dp/149277... It will give you peace of mind and it will take away that "wtf?!" anxiety you feel (in time; it's not immediate so be patient). Just read the books and consider the ideas, don't get sucked into the manosphere bs (there are a lot of idiots who grift on these ideas—the only guy who actually backs up his points is the author of this series).
- PM_me_your_math 4y agoThe ability to survive as a species is a powerful driver and not easily removed. It might for some, but the majority of boys will become men.