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I won't disagree with the "men have it hard" crowd but as a man myself my observation of the root cause is complacency. Blame "male privilege" or "men rights do
by _8j50 4y ago
I won't disagree with the "men have it hard" crowd but as a man myself my observation of the root cause is complacency. Blame "male privilege" or "men rights don't exist" or whatever but I have not seen this problem in poor countries or in immigrants from poor countries.
i.e.: in the US at least you can get just enough to be complacent as a man by doing bare minimum stuff.
So why endure hostile environments, places where you don't feel like you belong, etc... when the benefit is "you can afford just a little more stuff", especially when you are not planning for long term success.
Contrast this with east asia or india where you have the other end of the extreme where mostly men kill themselves when they get bad grades or fail standardized tests because it means they can't get any job that matters or pays well and subsequently lose social perks like getting married.
- the_jesus_villa 4y ago>i.e.: in the US at least you can get just enough to be complacent as a man by doing bare minimum stuff. Why aren't women in the US complacent? Couldn't they just get by doing the bare minimum?
- _8j50 4y agoI can't speak for women but they face greater challenges if for example they don't have a degree since blue collar work is not female friendly and even if it is, women don't tend to get satisfaction out of those jobs. It also has to do with ambition, women get pregnant or plan to get pregnant so for those women they typically have to plan for child care/future much earlier than men. Just in society as well, women who earn less are often forced to rely on a man which makes them feel less independent. So to be complacent as a woman, I would imagine being able to guarantee a future where men and children don't control your life or force you to give up your ambitions as well as for many women avoiding "nursing/caring" stereotypes and "physical labor" would be some of the things they desire before being complacent. Of course I am talking about women who pursue college, there are many women who are happy with depending on a man that is well to do but their daughters see how their mothers fare when older and usually want the opposite. These are just my observations, there couldn't be anyone who is less qualified to comment about women than myself, so if any woman reads this, please educate on things I have gotten wrong.
- dijit 4y agoJust to add something here: Beautician (of various forms including but not limited to: hairdressing, waxing, nailcare) and shop work (selling at the register, stocking) are blue collar jobs and are overrepresented by Women.
- _8j50 4y agoYou're right, I forgot about that. There are women who aspire to do those jobs and there is nothing wrong with that. I suppose if you dig deeper all of this has to do with how your brought up and what you expect out of life. Media and the internet play a big role in this.